In the whirlwind of life, especially as a working mum, it’s easy to get caught up in the endless “shoulds” and “supposed-tos” when scrolling through social media and in the news. We hear endless chatter about exhaustion, the hustle, and the mental load. But amidst all this noise, it’s crucial to pause, reflect, and ask yourself: Why? Why are we so exhausted? Is it because of the hustle, the mental load, or perhaps something else entirely?
I recently found myself in a conversation where everyone was buzzing about their overseas trips and holiday plans. It felt like I should be planning a getaway too. But then, I stopped myself. I realized that my dreams and plans for holidays are different. Just because everyone is doing something doesn’t mean it’s right for me.
We’re bombarded with messages about what we “should” be doing, but what about what we truly want to do? What kind of life do you envision for yourself and your family? What holds the most significance for you?
If you’re a working mum returning to work, now is the perfect time to reflect on how you want to navigate this new phase of life. While we meticulously plan for childbirth, it’s often a one-day affair. On the other hand, being a working mum spans years, yet many of us don’t have a plan for it.
Crafting a working mum plan is crucial. It requires more than just your effort—it takes a village. I’m fortunate to have over 10 key people in my village who support me through the juggle. I’ve come to realize that I can’t do it alone, and that’s perfectly okay.
Communication plays a pivotal role, especially with your partner. Take a moment to sit back and reflect on how things are going. What kind of mum do you aspire to be? Do you crave flexibility? If so, seek out a job and a career that align with your values and needs.
In my corporate role, I’ve worked hard to build my reputation and requested flexible work arrangements that support my current life stage. My company understands and respects my needs, which motivates me to stay committed. It’s not just about the work—it’s also about the flexibility that allows me to live the life I want.
So, I ask you: What do you want? What’s your vision for your life as a working mum? Take the time to reflect, plan, and craft your path. Back yourself, stand out, and embrace the journey ahead.
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