Meet Esther Hockey
How would you best describe yourself?
Thriving mama, Talented worker.
How has becoming a parent changed your perception of work and career and what surprised you the most?
The value of unconditional love for all humans. After becoming a mother, I am able to understand my students in a better and deeper way. Students also seem to respond to me better and feel empathised and loved. I am surprised by how strong and resilient I am even through the challenges of being a mother of 3 and working full-time in a very challenging workplace.
What advice would you give your younger self about starting a family?
- Love yourself
- Learn about yourself
- Invest in yourself
- Do something fun for yourself
- Look after yourself
- Forgive yourself
- Accept yourself
- Create the version of yourself that you most desire
- Be more discerning of whom you keep in your inner circle
- Be more distant from negative self-talk
- Pay yourself first. Learn to invest money
- Spend more time with yourself. Travel more
- More firm boundaries
- Say what you mean
- Say no more than yes
- Tell other people who don’t matter to go away
- Read more books
- Live by yourself
What has been your biggest challenge in motherhood to date? How have you overcome this?
Not having my family and allies in proximity. To overcome this, I try to self-care as much as possible and ask for help.
What are your strategies to manage the juggle of career and family?
- Stop feeling sorry for myself
- Believe in myself
- I tell myself that I am strong enough to do whatever I want
- I can be good at both parenting and working
- Ain’t nobody gonna tell me how to live my life and how to raise my children because they aren’t me
What do you do for self-care?
- Spend time with quality people doing fun stuff
- I go on overseas trips alone or with friends
- I spend money on massages, shopping, nails, hair, and eating out.
Connect with Esther on Instagram @esther_hockey