Esther Hockey shares her journey as a working mum

Meet Esther Hockey

How would you best describe yourself?

Thriving mama, Talented worker.

How has becoming a parent changed your perception of work and career and what surprised you the most?

The value of unconditional love for all humans. After becoming a mother, I am able to understand my students in a better and deeper way. Students also seem to respond to me better and feel empathised and loved. I am surprised by how strong and resilient I am even through the challenges of being a mother of 3 and working full-time in a very challenging workplace.

What advice would you give your younger self about starting a family?

  • Love yourself
  • Learn about yourself
  • Invest in yourself
  • Do something fun for yourself
  • Look after yourself
  • Forgive yourself
  • Accept yourself
  • Create the version of yourself that you most desire
  • Be more discerning of whom you keep in your inner circle
  • Be more distant from negative self-talk
  • Pay yourself first. Learn to invest money
  • Spend more time with yourself. Travel more
  • More firm boundaries
  • Say what you mean
  • Say no more than yes
  • Tell other people who don’t matter to go away
  • Read more books
  • Live by yourself

What has been your biggest challenge in motherhood to date? How have you overcome this?

Not having my family and allies in proximity. To overcome this, I try to self-care as much as possible and ask for help.

What are your strategies to manage the juggle of career and family?

  • Stop feeling sorry for myself
  • Believe in myself
  • I tell myself that I am strong enough to do whatever I want
  • I can be good at both parenting and working
  • Ain’t nobody gonna tell me how to live my life and how to raise my children because they aren’t me

What do you do for self-care?

  • Spend time with quality people doing fun stuff
  • I go on overseas trips alone or with friends
  • I spend money on massages, shopping, nails, hair, and eating out.

Connect with Esther on Instagram @esther_hockey

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